For those brothers who reside in the Western/westernized countries, before you get married remember that you are at a great disadvantage and risk with regard to your rights as a muslim husband and father.
 
When it comes to the marriage relationship and divorce, the laws and regulations of the countries you live in are set up to empower women over men.
 
Furthermore, such societies have very negative views of muslim men. As such, muslim men are not only at a disadvantage in the marriage relationship and the divorce process, but they are also at a disadvantage because there is the real potential that even the most pious of muslim women can be easily tempted into putting their husbands in a very difficult position with regard to their rights (according to our shari’ah) as husbands and fathers. Remember what the Prophets (ﷺ) said:
 
مَا تَرَكْتُ بَعْدِي فِتْنَةً أَضَرَّ عَلَى الرِّجَالِ مِنَ النِّسَاءِ
“After me I have not left any trial more severely harmful to men than women.”
 
Also remember what Allah says about those who disbelieve:
 
إِنَّ الْكَافِرِينَ كَانُوا لَكُمْ عَدُوًّا مُّبِينًا
Indeed, the disbelievers are ever to you a clear enemy. 4:101
 
The Potential Solutions:
 
There are some potential solutions to the very real problem presented above. Of course, the best solution is to avoid getting married in such societies, but not everyone can emigrate to societies where such problems can be easily avoided.
 
The second potential solution is to avoid marrying according to the laws of such societies, and instead performing a simple nikah (Islamic marriage agreement). However, this option may not work in all countries because living together with a woman for more than a certain amount of time can easily be considered a legal marriage by the local authorities.
 
The third, and probably most realistic option is to sign a contract/agreement with your future wife which addresses and protects your Islamic rights, in case of separation/divorce, and which is recognized by the local authorities. If you do not do this, then you can only blame yourself when bad things happen.

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